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January 13, 2009
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December 23, 2008
Leave It To Melissa…
For 7 years I have been an advocate for the Transgender community. Personal advice , essays… what-not. My basic tenet is that we must work with other folks and prove ourselves as what we truly are. “To change hearts, minds and souls”. That will be the secret to us being liberated as ourselves.
Now Pastor Rick Warren is to deliver the Inagural Prayer and Melissa Ethridge was to attend the affair. In this essay she got it right. She was also proactive and talked with Pastor Warren and learned some things.
Melissa and her family will attend the Inaguration.
There’s a new world dawning folks, and Melissa gets my thoughts from the above. (She doesn’t read my Blog) “Changing hearts, minds and souls” Just showing to good folks that we are good and proving ourselves. There is nothing to fear from us.
I won’t mute the Inagural Prayer as I planned. If Warren come close to the LGBT community’s position, I can go closer to his. (I may be a protective bitch, but I don’t like being petty.)
Here’s part of Melissa’s essay-
“Brothers and sisters the choice is ours now. We have the world’s attention. We have the capability to create change, awesome change in this world, but before we change minds we must change hearts. Sure, there are plenty of hateful people who will always hold on to their bigotry like a child to a blanket. But there are also good people out there, Christian and otherwise that are beginning to listen. They don’t hate us, they fear change. Maybe in our anger, as we consider marches and boycotts, perhaps we can consider stretching out our hands. Maybe instead of marching on his church, we can show up en mass and volunteer for one of the many organizations affiliated with his church that work for HIV/AIDS causes all around the world.
Maybe if they get to know us, they wont fear us.
I know, call me a dreamer, but I feel a new era is upon us.”
I too am a dreamer, and Hope always springs eternal.
December 20, 2008
The UN Considers My Tribes As Part of the Human Family
Of course the U.S., the fucking Vatican, China and the Muslim countries opposed this declaration by the United Nations.
Why am I not surprised? The filth of rabid crosswearers (who don’t understand the meanings of their supposed Founder’s words) and the crap of Islam will always be opposed to freedom and equal rights for my tribes. China is just a given when it comes to individual rights.
My kind- failed mosaics now number 1 in every thousand births. Homosexuals (not just the boys) are probably 1 in every hundred births. Studies of sealife are showing massive scenarios of hermorphic fish. (This comes from our chemical pollution of the World) Endocrine disruption in Utero has been rising for decades.
We didn’t ask for this, but we revel in our selves and lives. We live our lives even with the duress of cultures that can only see male/female, yes/no, black/white… a polar belief system trying to oppress our being.
All of Life is a spectrum. As a scientist I know this to be true. There are many flavors in Physics, and there are many flavors when it comes to Humanity. My question is what is the right flavor when it comes to Humankind?
The answer is that all flavors work. I don’t give a shit about what people do, as long as it doesn’t harm others. Sex (which I can never know) is an individual thing. There is no quantifying that which two people experience together. I have a partner who wraps her arm around me at night and I snuggle in closer. We argue and disagree, but really we are on the same page. When shit comes down we hold each other. When she is not with me I get scared… what happens to the two of us is one thing, but to lose my better half is a horror I don’t wish to face.
Where is the lack in Humanity in all of the above? Why are LGBT folks hated? Why are folks like me are demonized?
We are just Human, made as biology made us. We are just like all of the rest of Humanity, but with a twist. We live and love. We are not pediphiles, those kinds are 99% “straight.
Just let us have our rights under the Constitution. You may not like my tribes, but we don’t hurt you. What we are is ordained by Nature and it’s just how we are, and there isn’t any way to change that.
We are good people, and it’s far past time for me and mine to be stop being demonized. And I for one is just the kind that will fight to the death for my tribes’ rights and acceptance.
December 18, 2008
The T in LGBT That Will Not Remain Silent
Yeppers, that would be moi.
There’s a current controversy about the minister that Obama has chosen fo his inaugaration as President.
I don’t give two shits about Warren filling this role- I just ignore Evangelicals since most of them are mooks. My heart automatically protects me.
Now, I want Barack Obama to utter the word “Transgendered”.
Is that too much to ask considering us Trans folk almost universally voted for the man?
November 22, 2008
Thirty Years Ago was My First Political Campaign
It was 1978 and I had been in San Francisco for maybe 9 months. The majority of the folks I knew were centered in the Castro District… I liked those folks. They were pretty much open, fun loving and accepting of a Navy kid from the Deep South. What went on in their bedrooms was none of my business, just as my “secret” was none of theirs. We had a neat little community going.
Then a crazy State Senator named Briggs came up with Prop 6- a banning of Gays and their supporters from being able to teach in Public schools. Since I was still contemplating getting a teaching degree when my enlistment was up, I knew that my being Trans would definitely rule out a chance to teach if Prop 6 passed. That was the day I got into politics. (I had been doing community stuff for a few years, but not a campaign of this size.)
I handed out flyers, knocked on doors and basically became a pest in our fight to stop this evil proposition. Even got a talking-to from my C.O. regarding my efforts on the base. (Yep, couldn’t do that on Federal property, but he did agree with me.) I spent most of my free time traveling around the Bay Area to help stop this thing from passing. Many, many others were doing the same thing. It was very much a true Grassroots adventure. And we won the battle.
My Gentle Readers are probably looking cross-eyed at me wondering why I’m going into my ancient past. It’s because of a great piece from the HuffPo, “What Harvey Milk Tells Us About Proposition 8″. I was one of Harvey’s troops in the battle.
It’s a wonderful essay, so go and read it please. But first, here’s a portion of Harvey’s speech on the night we drove Prop 6 down:
“..to the gay community all over this state, my message to you is, so far a lot of people joined us and rejected Proposition 6, and we owe them something. We owe them to continue the education campaign that took place. We must destroy the myths once and for all, shatter them. We must continue to speak out, and most importantly, most importantly, every gay person must come out. As difficult as it is you must tell your immediate family, you must tell your relatives, you must tell your friends, if indeed they are your friends, you must tell your neighbors, you must tell the people you work with, you must tell the people in the stores you shop in (thunderous applause), and once they realize that we are indeed their children, that we are indeed everywhere, every myth, every lie, every innuendo will be destroyed once and for all. And once you do, you will feel so much better.”
That night changed my life even though it would be several years before I summoned up the courage to declare my true self to the World. To just be what the Goddess made me. Life is very good now.
And a sad note, three weeks later Harvey Milk was assasinated along with Mayor Moscone by Dan White.
I wrote about the repercussions last March concerning the murder of the community’s hero.
November 19, 2008
Transgender Day of Remembrance In New Orleans
Tomorrow is the Transgender Day Of Remembrance throughout the World. It is the day when our community remembers those fellow travelers who were killed this last year by Transphobic people. In all cases the deaths were brutal and in most cases, the perpetrator (s) have never been apprehended. There is no Justice for these acts of violence against people who are just finding their way in Life and living what they see as their personal reality.
There will be two different observances -
Will be holding a Transgender Day of Remembrance event on Thursday, November 20th at 6:30 PM. We are gathering at the LGBT Community Center (2114 Decatur Street, New Orleans, LA 70116) for a brief remembrance service and then taking a candlelight walk from the Faubourg Marigny through the French Quarter to the Jeanne d’Arc statue and back again.
The Big Easy Metropolitan Community Church in New Orleans will be having a Transgender Service of Remembrance on Sunday 23rd November at 5.00pm. It will have a short central ‘Requiem’ for those killed by Transphobic violence, as well as readings and prayers from ou Transgender members. The service will finish with a minutes silence and a congregational commitment to the Transgender Community in New Orleans. The address is 1333 S. Carrollton Avenue, New Orleans, LA 70118 and the website is www.bigeasymcc.com
Please take a moment of silence on this day Gentle Readers.
Virgo Tex has a great post on this over at First Draft
November 16, 2008
I Can’t Marry Someone I Love?
For those people who voted for Prop 8 in California or those who support them in the other 49 States, I fucking hate and feel sorry for you. Ya’s see, I was in a Straight marriage once for many years, but the moment came when we had to confront the needs of each other, it fractured within two days. Screw me, it was all about HER.
I walked away, with some pain, but with a massive lifting off of my shoulders of a weight handed to me by a scion of a Conservative family. I thought I had done what “society” deemed of me, and it was pure bull shit. When I needed to express myself, I no longer mattered. I was tossed away. (I also paid the bills.)
So I became myself. Became the person I always knew I was. I also knew that there was someone else out there who fit with me like a glove. And yes I did find her-
Her name is Betty.
She embraced me and my being, and I have never looked back. She is my love… my nemesis and my heartthrob. My friend, through thick and thin. The person who makes me into a better person. The person I want to strangle and yet hold onto for dear life.
My life means nothing if she isn’t in it. She’s my honey.
That’s called love… it’s also Sanctity beyond any of the religious frauds’ concepts. It is Blessed by the Goddess. It is what “marriage” is meant to be, a coupling of two people who pledge themselves to each other, “for better or for worse”. It is a Sacred bond given between two people that accept and embrace each other.
So I’m upset that many people, especially Mormons, Catholics and Blacks hate what me and my baby have. Isn’t this what Marriage was meant to be? Love, devotion, surrender? To merge together as one?
I guess they are wrong since I refuse to give up the life, and world, that has come to me by embracing this woman and saying, “Darlin’, I AM yours”.
In honor of that sentiment, here’s some lyrics from Santana that TOTALLY sums up how I feel about my Betty-
Sometimes, I imagine the world without you
But most times, I’m just so happy that I ever found you
It’s a complicated web, that you weave inside my head
So much pleasure with such pain
Hope we always, always stay the same
I’m feelin’ the way you cross my mind
And you save me in the nick of time
I’m ridin’ the highs, I’m diggin’ the lows
‘Cause at least I feel alive
I’ve never faced so many emotional days
But my life is good
I’m feelin’ you
I’m feelin’ you
You go, and then I can finally breathe in
‘Cause baby I know, in the end you’re never leavin’
Well we’re rarely ever sane, I drive you crazy and you do the same
But your fire fills my soul
And it warms me up like no one knows
‘Cause I’m feelin’ the way you cross my mind
And you save me in the nick of time
I’m ridin’ the highs, I’m diggin’ the lows
‘Cause at least I feel alive
I’ve never faced so many emotional days
But my life is good
I’m feelin’ you
I’m feelin’ you
[guitar solo]
I’m feelin’ the way you cross my mind
And you save me in the knick of time
I’m ridin’ the highs, I’m diggin’ the lows
‘Cause at least I feel alive
I’ve never faced so many emotional days
Oh, I’m feelin’ the way you cross my mind
And you save me in the nick of time
I’m ridin’ the highs, I’m diggin’ the lows
‘Cause at least I feel alive
I’ve never faced so many emotional days
But my life is good
I’m feelin’ you
I’m feelin’ you
I’m feelin’ you
Oh, I’m feelin’ you
Oh, I’m feelin’ the way that you cross my mind
And the way that you save me in the knick of time
Oh I’m feelin’ the way when you walk on by
I feel light, I feel love, I feel butterflies
I feel butterflies
How the fuck can anyone legislate against what we have in the name of Sanctity?
It’s not sanity. (And I feel sorry for you)
November 15, 2008
The Mormons Are Upset?
Fuck those Magic Underwear idiots. The LGBT community is attacking you?
You fuckmooks, you create your own paranoias. The “white powder” “attacks are probably from your own in a blatant attempt to poison the feelings about those who oppose your actions. Having lived in “Mormon-held territory” I wouldn’t put it past you.
My kind don’t do that. All we wish is for folks like you to STFU and leave us alone.
The California Supreme Court rules that equal rights are for all under the State Constitution even if one is LGBT and you fucks from Utah (what a shithole state) pour $20M into a fight to overturn a different State Court’s verdict? Ya’s teamed up with your enemies, the child-raping Catholic Church, in order to deny folks like me the right to the same rights you over-child bearing jerks enjoy?
Fuck you again.
You people are sick puppies. You can have 10 wives but I can’t have my one Darling? That makes three “fuck yous”.
Yes we are protesting outside of your “business” centers. Yes we are marching. Yes we damn you to the depths of whatever Hell you subscribe to, but we don’t want to hurt anyone. We just want you to leave us alone. (Remember, you are freaks the Feds had to take down many years ago. Remember that one mooks?)
You put $20M into a campaign in another stae, along with the dress-wearing pediphile Catholic Church mooks, to remove the Constitutional Rights granted by the Constitution of California? Fuck you again.
Me and mine don’t take orders from Salt (kill me now) Lake City or the pedarists in the dung-hole named Rome. We are American citizens and we demand our Rights under the various State and Federal Constitutions. Our allegiance, devotion and love is to our Nation and it’s ideals, not to your fucking lies and superstitions. In other words weirdos, we ain’t cut from the same bolt of cloth you whack-jobs are.
We love and care for those we choose, and there isn’t any Power in Heaven or on Earth that can deny us. “All acts of Love are Holy in Mine eyes” states the Goddess. You may control your mindless congregations, but you have no power over us and our lives and loves. We are free from your mind control B/S. You have have no power over us… we have Power from within. That is what happens when you are self-actuated and not programmed.
All we ever wanted was our Rights and to be left alone to have our lives and loves. Now you mooks have a war on your hands, along with the blood of those of us killed by your teachings and the mental robots you have released upon Society. I know this to be true- I have been beaten almost to death by your minions.
When we win this case, I hope the punishment is the revocation of your tax-exempt status. Maybe even the banning of your hateful religions. I wish to see the death of your B/S worldview. I desire the expunging of your names from the rolls of those who lived in this country. None of you are Americans- you are space aliens or the subjects of the Vatican. That ain’t American citizenship as I see it.
And since I AM a vindictive bitch, may both of your tribes fuck off and die.
BTW- mooks, I was born with ALL of the boy and girl parts. That means I am more than any of you could ever be. The Goddess makes no mistakes. ‘Nuff said.